Support

Do you ever look around you and feel supported and encouraged in your dreams? Do you feel like the people around you are building you up and strengthening your hope and energy? If not, why not?

I am reminded again today how important it is to surround myself with energy and ideas and relationships that enhance my personal growth and where I am headed in life. I used to have relationships that drained me, that were more one sided, that were not mutually beneficial. I kept giving, and looking for approval from them, and feeling like I never quite got it, feeling like there was always some criticism from them or a little judgement. Or, that I couldn’t be myself and show how I really felt, or I wouldn’t be accepted by them.

What I have realized is that every relationship was a reflection of myself. You see, I was so judgmental of myself, I was so critical, and I never felt good enough. So, I was fine with having “friends” who were that way. I subconsciously attracted people like that, and then felt badly that I never was accepted and supported by them. What had to change was me! I began to accept myself, love myself the way I was, quit being so critical. And by default, the people in my life who were not supportive fell by the wayside.

At first, it was a little difficult to let them go. I thought I needed them, I thought they were there for me. However, when I found others who lifted me up, and gave back, and wanted me to be successful and happy no matter what, I realized what true friendship is about. I realized how to have a relationship where both parties benefit, where 2 flames can make an even bigger flame, and where love and acceptance are the norm, not the rarity.

So, if you don’t have those kind of relationships right now, then take a look in your heart. See what is reflecting back that is not benefiting you, and make some changes. And then keep your eyes open for people around you who support your dreams, and accept you for you. It is amazing what will happen!

Constructive Interference

Have you heard of constructive interference? It is used to describe a ripple effect or energy fields that collide. You see, when 2 rocks are thrown into a pond at the same time, when the two ripple fields collide, they create an even greater ripple in the waves which increases the effect. But, if one of the rocks were thrown into the pond before the second rock, the second ripple field will cancel out the 1st ripple field, making it neutral.

This got me to thinking. . . Our friendships and relationships can act like positive interference or negative interference. When we have people around us who uplift us and encourage our dreams, and help us get to our goals, they act as constructive interference, and cause our waves and ripples to be even greater! We can be stronger and more effective in our message if we surround ourselves with positive and like-minded people.

On the other hand, if we keep people around who don’t support our dreams, or who are negative, or who we feel like we have to shrink around, they can cancel out our waves and ripples, and if we are not careful, we can let them hold us back from our dreams.

The same is true for our health goals, financial goals or any other area in our life. I am on a path to my dreams, and I am surrounding myself with people who can support me in that. Those who don’t are not bad people, I just don’t have the energy to spend with them right now. Do you have people around you that support you? I would love to support you in any way I can!

A Winding Road

Have you ever driven on a winding road that snakes back and forth, sometimes with hairpin curves and turns where you can’t see what is around the bend? Those of you in South Carolina, North Carolina, Tennessee, or anywhere near those states know what I am talking about. Those backwoods roads where you never know what you are going to come up on. They are curvy and usually 2 lanes, with deer in the woods and other creatures that may pop onto the road at any time.

That is exactly what getting to your dreams can look like. A long winding road that seems to go on forever, where you never know what is going to pop up, and where there are a bunch of obstacles that you never imagined. And just when you think you are almost there, you blow a tire, or hit a pothole, and you are delayed a little bit more.

However, if you don’t keep going down that road, you will never know the amazing things that wait for you! The incredible life that is yours for the taking, the amazing joy and the wonderful abundance for you. It is not always easy, but it is so worth it!

Your health journey can be exactly the same. It can be a long winding road, it can be filled with roadblocks and potholes, and many unexpected things that you come up on; but if you keep going, if you breakthrough, it will be worth it. Anything in life worth having does not come easily. Just remember, you are worth it! You deserve to be healthy and have your dreams! Just keep going!

You are great!

Did you know that? Has anyone told you that lately?? Have you told yourself that lately? If not, why not? I feel like someone needs to hear this today.

There is nothing wrong with you, you are not broken, and you don’t need to be fixed. If there are thought patterns or habits that are not serving you right now, then change them. But don’t sit there and think that you are messed up, and please don’t think you are not amazing. You are incredible, you are awesome, you are great, and you don’t need anything or anyone else in this world to confirm that or to agree.

I am enough! Repeat that to yourself until you start to believe it. And then repeat it again and share with others. I.Am. Enough.Period!

Words

I am reminded today how much words can hold meaning. I say things sometimes that I don’t think about, and sometimes they can cause pain to those I love. That is not my intention of course, but then I can feel like I have to explain what I meant and defend myself. And then the old programs kick in, and I start to feel like I am not good enough and not wanted, and it goes down in this ugly spiral of hateful things that are lobbed back and forth like a tennis ball.

Not that this has ever happened to you and your significant other, but every once in a while, it happens to us and we will go at it. Why do we do that, you ask? Well, I feel like I am not being heard and not being understood, he feels like his feelings don’t matter to me, so we keep adding more words to “help the situation.” However, this seldom does help, and often makes things worse. Until, we come to a point where we both feel useless and like a failure in the relationship, and are emotionally hurt.

You see, I have everything I need in me to succeed, but I am not perfect in the sense that I don’t always remember that my husband does have my best interest at heart, and I don’t always remember to not take things that others say so sensitively. Which means, sometimes I get my feelings hurt, and sometimes I lash out, and sometimes I can hurt the ones I love. And hopefully, they know that I still love them, and I am a wonderful work in progress. And hopefully, I can remember that about them, too.

Nothing

So today I feel like I did nothing. I mean, I did get some laundry done, and painting, and made dinner; but compared to my busy, getting my list accomplished day, I did nothing. And, oh, it felt so good!

You see, I woke up this morning, and my body was a little sore from working out, and I was a little sleepy, and feeling a little worn out. I am human after all, and have my moments. So I decided to take a day to relax and listen to my body.

Self care is something I haven’t always done very well. I think we sometimes get so busy taking care of everyone else that we neglect ourselves. A lot of us do it. And then we reach a point where we feel like we are going to break, or we get sick, and we are forced to stop for a bit. But what if we learned to listen to what our body is telling us, and stopped for a bit when we needed the break, and learned how to take care of ourselves, including our mind.

I have been in a place where I literally thought I couldn’t take one more day, or act like I was interested, or tried to please everyone else until I thought I was going to burst. I thought I was having a nervous breakdown, and thought I was going to have to be admitted to the looney bin. I have realized that if I don’t take care of myself, I am not able to take care of those around me. It is not selfish to take a day or take an hour or two to yourself, and refresh and clear your mind, or just to recenter and rest. It is crucial that we listen to our bodies and take some time for self care. What have you done for self care lately?

Programs

Programs are little things that can cause a lot of heartache and havoc. They are pesky things that are hard to get rid of, and just when you think you have it under control, they rear their ugly head, and leave you reeling in shame.

What are programs, you ask? They are beliefs that we pick up as kids, and unknowingly take with us into adulthood. Maybe we were told we were lazy as a young person, or maybe we were told that we were not good at math. Or maybe we didn’t feel loved, or we felt we had to earn our parents’ love, so we take these beliefs into our adulthood. And then, what we do now as adults are based on those false beliefs.

For me, a big program I had is that I am not enough. I took this belief with me as I grew up, and so everything I did was done with that premise. I tried to please people, not rock the boat, and be the perfect person so that I could be enough. But nothing I did worked.

When I started on this personal growth journey, I realized that I have the power to change my thinking, and therefore change my beliefs. I can now believe I am enough, and that I don’t need to earn anyone else’s acceptance.

So today, I was faced with a situation, and I again felt like I wasn’t enough. But, I can now see that this is a false belief and recognize it when it comes. This journey of self growth is just that, a journey; and there are times when I feel like I can conquer the world, and then there are times when I am terrified of the future. And no matter what, I know I will be okay.

It is tough to recognize beliefs that are not serving us today. It can be difficult to change our thinking and to believe that we are enough. But when we do, we can change our world. So what programs have been difficult for you?